Are You In Need or Needy?
Sometimes it is hard to ask for the things we need. We risk feeling vulnerable or appearing needy. How do we tell the difference between a basic human need (because we are all basic humans with needs) and neediness?

How do you react when someone says to you "I need you"? How do others react when you say to them "I need you"? Too often we are shut down when we express a need. And yet, it is such a simple and basic principle.

Basic Human Needs are just that. They are the foundational qualities of life that motivate all our behaviors. There are many models of these basic needs that we are all born with. Two of my favorites are tried and tested models.

First, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs which was developed by Abraham Maslow in the 1940's and is considered valid today. Maslow suggested that only when our lower needs for physical and emotional well-being were satisfied could we move up on the scale to a higher order of needs that would influence our personal development and spiritual growth. The general order of needs being:
1. Physiological needs: food, water, shelter, clothing. (ie basic survival)
2. Security needs: safety of family and community, protection
3. Love Needs: receiving and giving love and appreciation. A sense of belonging and friendship
4. Esteem needs: self respect, individual uniqueness, success
5. Aesthetic needs: life purpose, meaning and realizing all inner potentials
6. Self-actualization and Transcendence

Most people I work with have conquered level one and two and are stuck at level three. Why is love so hard to find? How is it that this basic human need eludes us?

Without a sense of expecting greatness in love from others we cannot attract it to ourselves. This is the level at which fear, guilt, worry, and remorse become our greatest enemies. Most people decide to settle for less, as if that is all that exists. Oftentimes I find the belief imbedded that one is not worthy of great, magical, passionate love. Childhood abuse and/or dysfunctional love relationships can cause a pattern of expecting little in the way of satisfying love. For some, in the effort to provide levels one and two, a sacrifice has been made that disallows this basic human need of attaining great love in ones life to appear. Without it, the higher meanings of life often elude us as well. We may desire success and great meaning in our life yet never quite attain it.

How do you know if your basic human need for love and belonging is truly, deeply met in your life? Would you miss an opportunity for it if the universe presented it to you? Are you so stuck in what you perceive as your safe, protected life where your survival needs are managed that you disallow yourself from venturing beyond it?

Here is a test. Close your eyes and imagine great, magical, passionate love being yours every day, all around you. Maybe you know someone who makes you feel this way. Imagine them. What do you SEE? How does it FEEL? How does it SMELL? How does it TASTE? Use all your senses. What do you HEAR? Music? Laughter? Words of adoration?

Sit with it awhile. Breathe it in. The amazing result is that with this kind of love comes all the higher needs up through transcendence. Love is a doorway to usher in all your greatest potentials. It is a basic human need each of us is worthy of if we just allow it to flow in around us.

Once you have a sense of it, then you can take action to obtain it. Meeting your needs through love at this level moves you into a state of wholeness. This is where the difference between a need and neediness occurs. This is where I like to use the second model.

The Map of Consciousness was developed by David Hawkins, MD and presented in his book "Power vs Force". It is our action plan. In this work, Dr. Hawkins suggests that all our thoughts and feelings, being pure consciousness, can be mapped on a logarithmic scale of 1-1000.

Energy at or below 199 represents Force. Force embraces guilt, shame, fear, anger, anxiety and is ultimately destructive. When we exist here, these become our motivators for how we choose our life path. We may feel hopeless, trapped or miserable. Life may seem demanding and disappointing. Love can only exist here as neediness and will make us feel split. Our relationships here will be unfulfilling.

Meeting our basic human need for love (level 3 according to Maslow), can only occur when we rise above this level and embrace our ability to take action, empowering ourselves to draw love to us. Not needy, unequal love, but amazing, passionate love.

Power, or self-empowerment first shows up on the Map of Consciousness at 200. This is where we first embrace the courage to expect our basic human need of love to be met. Continuing up the scale we reach not only self-actualization but transfiguration. This is where that great sense of loving and being loved provides us with peace, joy and contentment. This is where we embrace serenity, understanding, optimism and life becomes more meaningful and complete.

Now, go back to the test. Do it again. What are your expectations for love in your life? What do you feel come into your soul to motivate you? Call someone you feel passionate about and tell them that you love them. That you need them. Connect your heart wide open with trust and watch how guilt, fear and neediness cannot exist there.

We alone are the creators of our destiny. Embrace your power to have your basic human needs met exquisitely. Embrace the gift of opportunities of great love in your life.

Music enriches the soul. The Inner Realm recommends the CD "What A Heart Is Beating For" by Chris Rice.
Also by Chris Rice "Amusing"

RESEARCH
(If you did not get a chance to participate in this research project last month, I invite you to do so this month. As responses are still coming in, I will be compiling the data and reporting results to all of you in an upcoming newsletter.)

In addition to teaching and seeing private clients, I also do a great deal of research. Occasionally I will ask for participation from clients in a research project. Each one of you is invited today to help me gather important research data. Here's How:

•  The following is a Prayer. Say it out loud to yourself one or more times. Don't worry about pronunciations; just do the best you can.

•  Sit quietly for 5-10 minutes with your eyes closed. Record any sensory impressions or thoughts you have.

•  Email me at info@theinnerrealm.com with your impressions.

•  Please do not send your responses anonymously. I will need:

•  Your initials
•  Your gender
•  Your age

•  If you include your full present name, full birth name and birth date, I will send you a complimentary Numerology Reading (A $40 value!).

•  Your name, if submitted with your responses will not be recorded or stored in any way. All identifying info will be limited to initials, gender and age.

•  Everyone who participates will receive an email that explains the purpose of the research and how you have assisted me. I will send this after receiving your responses so I do not lead your answers in any way.

•  You may also read this to others, forward it on, and send me all the responses that you get. I especially encourage you to read it to a child or all of your children and send me their responses.

•  Thank you, in advance!! Have fun with it!! You will receive a Blessing!

"NAMO BHAGAVATE TRAILOKYA PRATIVISISTAYA BUDDHAYA BHAGAVATE. TADYATHA, OM, VISUDDHAYA-VISUDDHAYA, ASAMA-SAMA SAMANTAVABHASA- SPHARANA GATI GAHANA SVABHAVA VISUDDHE, ABHINSINCATU MAM. SUGATA VARA VACANA AMRTA ABHISEKAI MAHA MANTRA-PADAI. AHARA-AHARA AYUH SAM-DHARANI. SODHAYA-SODHAYA, GAGANA VISUDDHE. USNISA VIJAYA VISUDDHE.

SAHASRA-RASMI, SAMCODITE, SARVA TATHAGATA AVALOKANI, SAT-PARAMITA, PARIPURANI, SARVA TATHAGATA MATI DASA-BHUMI, PRATI-STHITE, SARVA TATHAGATA HRDAYA ADHISTHANADHISTHITA MAHA-MUDRE. VAJRA KAYA, SAM-HATANA VISUDDHE. SARVAVARANA APAYA DURGATI, PARI-VISUDDHE, PRATI-NIVARTAYA AYUH SUDDHE. SAMAYA ADHISTHITE. MANI-MANI MAHA MANI. TATHATA BHUTAKOTI PARISUDDHE. VISPHUTA BUDDHI SUDDHE.

JAYA-JAYA, VIJAYA-VIJAYA, SMARA-SMARA. SARVA BUDDHA ADHISTHITA SUDDHE. VAJRI VAJRAGARBHE, VAJRAM BHAVATU MAMA SARIRAM. SARVA SATTVANAM CA KAYA PARI VISUDDHE. SARVA GATI PARISUDDHE. SARVA TATHAGATA SINCA ME SAMASVASAYANTU. SARVA TATHAGATA SAMASVASA ADHISTHITE, BUDDHYA-BUDDHYA, VIBUDDHYA-VIBUDDHYA, BODHAYA-BODHAYA, VIBODHAYA-VIBODHAYA. SAMANTA PARISUDDHE. SARVA TATHAGATA HRDAYA ADHISTHANADHISTHITA MAHA-MUDRE SVAHA."

• KID QUOTES

I learn a great deal from the children I interact with. Not just my own kids, but clients and sometimes child-like spirit guides. Occasionally I will include some of the nuggets I receive here, so you can also share in the wonderment of remembering the beauty, honesty and simplicity of a child-like perspective on life.

On a recent evening I crawled into bed next to my six-year-old. He moved over to let me in saying to me, "Here mommy, sleep here...I left angel bits for you."

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Soy Candles
Did you know that paraffin candle wax is derived from petroleum and emits harmful vapors and carcinogens when burned? I did not know that until I purchased an air purifier for my home that included a warning against burning them due to the toxic nature of their fumes. Upon discovering this, I went on a research crusade.

I learned that a healthy alternative to paraffin candles is soy candles. Many soy candle products will also be partially paraffin, so you have to be careful to read the label. I found a company that supplies you with everything you need to make your own from a 100% soy product. They have wonderful scents, jars, and other items too.

NVSoy wax is derived from vegetables and is 100% non-toxic and all natural. NVSoy wax supports the American Farmer, which includes my father, sister, brother, nephews and nieces. Another good reason to do what I can to discontinue purchasing oil/petroleum based products!

I tried it and it was fun and easy. For anyone wanting to make your own healthy soy candles, this is a great resource. Read the web site information on personal use, hobby and small business opportunities. For more information and to purchase product, visit www.cwlight.com/innerrealm. I also have many already made in stock - send me an email at mami@TheInnerRealm.com.

Healing CD's
The Inner Realm is now a distributor for the wonderful healing and soul clearing CD’s offered by Tybro. Visit www.TheInnerRealm.com/products.html to see the list of CD’s you can order from my web site. Feel free to connect with me if you have questions about which ones are best for you. I will be carrying them all in stock and get them right out to you. As always, I research as many products as possible in order to provide for you the best in each category.

Community Spotlights:

The Secrets of Spiritual Power - The Hidden Reality of Divine Power Seminar

Presented by Tybro.com Inc.
Where: Phoenix, Arizona- Radisson Phoenix Airport Hotel
When: October 6 & 7th 10am-4pm
Cost: $250 for two days
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Personal endorsement: I have attended many seminars by Mitchell Gibson, MD and Kathy Gibson. They are always full of amazing information. You don't want to miss this one!

Oily Doula Class

Presented by Jessica Wild, Angel Dance Birth Services
Where: Phoenix, Arizona Location TBA
When: October 9th 6pm-9pm
Cost: $125 Includes manual, oils and creams to be used in pregnancy, labor, birth and newborn care.
To register:
contact Jessica at oilymom@jessicawild.com

Personal endorsement: I have taken this class from Jessica and she is a master teacher. I have also had the privilege to provide doula labor support services with her and it has been a marvelous experience. For more information on doula services, visit my web site at www.styledbirth.com. Watch for new birth attendant services and classes that Jessica and I will be providing together soon!

"Human kind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together."
-Chief Seattle, Suquamish 1786-1866

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